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Tuesday, July 18, 2017

How to Geek Your Wedding


If you’re like me, you have met someone that you love more than anything else. More than your favorite movie or TV show, more than your favorite comic book or video game, even more than that one 90s thing. And so you’ve seen the photos floating on Facebook of Marvel wedding cakes and anime wedding receptions and thought, “What if we did something like that?” Well on April 29th, 2017 I married the love of my life and we did something just like that. So read on and find out how we geeked our wedding and get some tips on how you can too.

First of all: don’t. When I asked my various friends for ideas, this was the most common response. It can be tempting to inject a bit of something you love into your big day, but anything more than a bit is too much. You might really love Harry Potter, who doesn’t? But your grandma and boss don’t want to go to a wedding in the Great Hall of Hogwarts with robes and ghosts and a toad choir.

Your whole family is going to be there, both sides, and you’ll have those photos forever. Whatever you’re geeky about is prone to change. I was way into anime and tokusatsu five years ago, if I had done a Kamen Rider wedding when I was 22 I’d already be looking back at the photos and asking myself “What was I thinking?”


Keep it Simple, Keep it Subtle

Now, you should absolutely do what you want for your day and geek the hell out of it if that’s what you want. But keep it simple and keep it subtle. You want to dress like a superhero? Wear a shirt under your suit and show it off on the dance floor. Want to be one with the Force? Pose with some lightsabers for your photos. Don’t have the Imperial March play while Stormtroopers and Darth Vader walk you down the aisle in Jedi robes. I am 100% on board with you making every moment of your life geeky, but sometimes less is more. Here’s what we did:

Before the standard bridal march, we walked down the aisle to Hikari, the instrumental theme to the PS2 classic Kingdom Hearts. We walked out while All is Love from Where the Wild Things played. And… that’s it! Hikari is basically classical music. Sure, the song is from a video game where anime kids team up with Disney characters, but it’s also a classical orchestra piece. I don’t even think my parents really comprehended that it’s from a video game. All is Love is from a movie about a bunch of weird monsters, but it sounds like a simple, sweet love song.


Our reception is where things got interesting: it was at an arcade. Victory Pointe is a two-floor arcade with a full kitchen and the best milkshakes in Pittsburgh. The first floor remained mostly the same with all of their games available for our guests to play throughout the evening. The second floor, which usually houses their console and tabletop games, was completely cleared out and able to hold about seventy people, plus a buffet, dessert table, and dance floor.

We’re friends with the Victory Pointe staff, so they communicated with us the whole way through. At one point they asked us if we wanted anything video game themed in the reception. Nope. The reception was at an arcade and that was it. The food and drinks were typical (Puerto Rican inspired) wedding fare, the decorations were simple and elegant, and the cake looked like a wedding cake. Although that was more our style, I think your cake is a great place to let loose and show off your geeky side with unique designs and toppers.

We had the expected confusion at first. “You’re doing it at an arcade? Waaaah? You can’t do that.” But everyone came around, especially when they saw the place, and were convinced it was a great idea. The term “different” came up a lot. That’s my main tip: don’t try explicitly to be geeky, be different. Katrina and I both like games and gaming, but it’s hardly our geekiest obsession. The arcade was great because it was different. It was a fun place for cocktails and we know the staff so we were able to get exactly what we wanted. But there are plenty of subtle approaches you can take.


MUSIC
As with our Kingdom Hearts processional, there are plenty of instrumentals that don’t scream “geeky” but are still geeky at heart. You may say you don’t want to use an instrumental, which I get. We originally used a 3-minute version of Hikari, but it finished up too early in rehearsal so I got the longer version instead. You want something that gives enough breathing room. If you’re going for a short song, it better be high energy because the wedding party is going to need to run down the aisle.

DECORATIONS
This is where people tend to go the most overboard. I have seen pictures from weddings where EVERYTHING was built out of LEGO bricks. I love LEGO as much as the next guy. But don’t do that. Keep it subtle, keep it simple. If you want to make LEGO centerpieces, don’t also have LEGO tablecloths and a LEGO disco ball. This is your wedding, not your 6th birthday party.

FOOD AND DRINKS
Dinner should be dinner. Bread, meat, veggie, potatoes, pasta, etc. I have nothing against getting it catered by Pizza Hut or Wendy’s either. But you don’t want your caterer (or you) to slave over the stove making chicken nuggets shaped like Disney characters. Save the subtle and simple fun for appetizers, cocktails, and dessert. Dessert especially gets an easy pass, decorating cookies and cupcakes can be super fun. If you’re not having a full open bar, most will recommend you just beer and wine with one signature cocktail - that signature cocktail can be whatever you want.

TRADITIONS
If you the kind of person who wants Batman to give you away at the altar, you’re probably young, think you’re sweet, and find the usual wedding traditions are outdated. You’re someone I like. You don’t have to throw a bouquet or anything like that. Most states have a very, very bare minimum for what constitutes a wedding so it still counts if you don’t use “Here Comes the Bride.” After our First Dance, we also had a First Mario Kart Race, which held way more people’s attention. Especially because I totally won. As thank you gifts to my groomsmen, who were all my brothers, I got them all a retro game that I have memories of playing with them.

VENUE
I say it’s good to keep things balanced. Our reception was at an arcade, but the fairly traditional ceremony was at a church. If you’re going all-out on the ceremony, keep the reception simple and vice versa. And remember the subtle/simple rule. Museums, libraries, aquariums, science centers, and the like make for excellent venues that are fun and different and can be geeky. If they’re in your area and in your price range, I highly recommend booking a castle or a famous movie shooting location.


One thing we were told constantly was that the wedding wasn’t “our” day. It was for everyone. It was a family reunion. I sorta half agree. I’ve heard many wedding horror stories from couples who basically threw a huge, expensive party for other people and had no fun. There are ways to have fun on your day without upsetting three generations on two sides.

During the wedding planning phase, many young couples forget that you’ll get a whole trip of just the two of you. We had our honeymoon in Orlando and got to party with the X-Men and go to Hogwarts and eat cheese balls and pop corn. You can have your day be geeky, but don’t go overboard. You have the rest of your life together to be a huge dork.

Thanks for reading! Check out how our honeymoon went here. Want more? Follow me on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram for more content about my geeky life.

How would you geek your wedding? Let me know in the comments below!


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  2. Wow!! Good to see this awesome wedding post. For my wedding at one of Los Angeles wedding venues planning to hire a wedding planner that will really help me to have something best for the day. Will hire a photographer too.

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